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Asking Questions

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The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” Albert Einstein

It is wholly appropriate that the world celebrates ‘Ask A Question’ Day on March 14th as it is the birthday of one of the great questioners of all time – Albert Einstein. One of his quotes is “I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious” indicating his need to question everything all the time. So why do we get so frustrated when our children continually ask ‘why’? Surely this is their way of learning about the world around them and how they fit into it?

Regrettably, the answer lies in us, the receiver of the questions. As we grow, we become so embroiled in our lives that we lose this wonderful curiosity that only children seem to have. We need to make money to support our families and this takes time and energy, leaving little for the voracious questioners. We wake early to get everything ready for those in the household to start their day. We rush, rush, rush to make sure we, and they, are not late for whatever the day brings. We get stuck in traffic, fight with our spouses or coworkers, hate our jobs – so many ways we lose energy throughout the day. Is it any wonder that ten instances of asking why might send us over the edge?

So how do you maintain the energy during the day so that you do not get frustrated when the questions start?  The number one rule any parent should uphold, is ‘take care of yourself’ because if you don’t, you cannot take care of anyone else.  If you are not coping, then it is time to step back and look at what is happening. How can you change the routine to give you a little more time? How can you delegate so that you don’t have to do everything yourself? Remember that children are capable of so much more than we allow. They should be helping around the house by tidying up after themselves, taking dirty dishes to the kitchen, putting dirty clothes in the hamper, sorting colours on washing day etc.

Take a step back to take care of YOU so that you are able to take care of those who need you.

How do you cope with your busy schedule?